FAQ’s
Frequently Asked Questions:
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What is Speed Dating?
Speed dating is an organized form of matchmaking that focuses on meeting a lot of people in a short period of time. Most speed dating events include short (three to five minute) ‘dates’ where one speed dating participant will meet with another for a face-to-face conversation about whatever they choose. A signal is given to all speed dating participants, and each person makes a note as to whether or not they’d like to meet their ‘date’ again before moving on to another person. LA Lords takes it one step further and match people on 2 different levels, friends or dates.
Is 3-5 minutes long enough to get to know someone?
Yes, a few minutes can be a long time with someone you do not ‘connect’ with. However, it is long enough to know whether you would like to invest a few hours getting to know each other on a further date.
Why are there specific age limit groups?
We’ve done surveys and found that most, not all, people prefer to date within a certain age bracket. We’ve tailored events to be accommodating to most. Some special events are all ages 21 and up.
Do I have to be in the age limit to attend?
The age range is a guideline only, if you are slightly under or above the age limit you are still welcome to attend. However, if you are, or appear to be, significantly outside of the age range then you are unlikely to get a match.
Do I have to be over 21 to attend an event?
Most of our events are tailored for people over 21 and are at establishments that require identification. You must be the legal drinking age to attend.
How many people will I date?
At our events there are usually anywhere from 16-30 people. We’ve put a limit at 30 because we find anything larger takes too long and is exhausting!
What is the process like?
Each party is held at different venues. When you arrive you will check in with our host, get your picture taken and be handed a scorecard. Once everyone is checked in our host will explain the process to everyone and the dating will begin. At most events there will be a short 10-15 minute intermission for bathroom breaks and more drinks.
When the event is over you will take your scorecard home and enter in your results on our secret online matching database, it will show you the email addresses of your new date or friend matches. For confidentiality nobody will see the choices you enter for your results except your match. It’s up to you to set up a real date from there.
Can I bring a friend?
Yes the more the merrier but you must have him/her register before.
Can I pay at the venue rather than online?
Most of our events are paid for online by reserving your spot. By holding reservations we are able to guarantee a predictable number in our crowd instead of coming to a lame event that only has 4 people.
I’m nervous, what types of questions should I ask on these quick dates?
There is no right or wrong questions, but some questions can give you a glimpse into what kind of person he/she is.
Good questions:
- What do you do for fun? This will help you find out immediately if you two have the same interests.
- What do you do in your free time that you’re absolutely passionate about? Something you could lose yourself in for hours? This will give you an idea if someone is an obsessed collector, a music nerd, gaming geek, etc., and will give you a glimpse into their personality. After all, if someone can’t muster up some passion when they’re talking about things they love doing in life – what will they get excited about?
- What’s your favorite movie? Ask this instead of “What kinds of movies do you like?” A person’s favorite movie will help you understand what touches their heart or gets them fired up.
- Like to cook? What’s your best meal? Most of us need to eat from time to time. Some of us love to grill, some love to go out, and some wouldn’t dream of messing up a perfectly fine kitchen by turning on the oven.
Bad questions:
- If you had a million dollars, how would you spend it? This is a fantasy question, and while it might be fun to dream out it won’t give you an idea of the person’s true likes and dislikes.
- Have you ever committed a crime? While this is important to know, you’re not likely to get an honest answer if the person has done something illegal, and if not, you’ll only offend them.
- How many people have you slept with? This question would fall under the “TMI – too much information” category for a speed (or any first) date. If you two hit it off you’ll have plenty of time to discuss this later.
- Do you want kids? It’s important for you to know this, but not on a speed date. Just find out if you want to see them for a real date first.
- How long have you been doing speed dating? Why not just ask them what the weather was like today? The answer will mean about the same to you.
- What are you looking for in a relationship? This will take too long to properly answer. Assume they want to meet a nice person to go out with, and leave it at that.
